What is good mental health? Good mental health is the ability to be fully in reality as it is, without requiring it to be anything other than it is right now. It’s another word for “mindfulness.” Having this ability ensures that you respond appropriately to situations, with the right kind of emotion and at the right level of intensity. Over time, being fully present to reality as it is now generates a stable sense of self that is non-reactive, doesn’t take things personally and greets each day with a calm, clear, light and joyful eagerness.
Contrast this with the frequently chaotic and busy mind that you are probably familiar with during stressful times. A mind that judges the present moment as never good enough. A mind that says: “I shouldn’t be feeling this way” and says: “why?” in an impatient tone, meaning: “this present moment isn’t OK and if I try hard enough I can force it to be different”.
This is a cycle that creates suffering: anxiety, misery, anguish, despair and confusion.
Yet there is one simple method of mindfulness, if practised daily, that yields subtle but incredible results in the direction of emotional well-being. It’s this:
Mindfulness Method For Mental Health
Each day, go for a 40 to 60 minute walk in nature (having a dog helps!) As you establish the pace of your walk, notice your surroundings. Pay full attention to the smell and the temperature of the air.
Notice the colour of the sky and the sounds of nature around you. Notice how you feel as your feet hit the ground and how your breathing changes rhythm as you exercise.
Once you’ve established this present-moment awareness, it’s time to do a “mindfulness check-in” with yourself. Ask yourself this simple question:
“How am I going right now?”
Answer yourself with a short phrase that accurately describes your experience, without embellishments, judgments, explanations and analyses. The description should be no more than 6 words, for example:
“I have a knot in my stomach”
Then enquire kindly of yourself:
“What’s that like?”
Await the response patiently as you focus your attention more closely on the exact physical sensations in your body and how they shift and change as you observe. The most important thing to remember is:
Do nothing. Just listen
Then keep describing your experience to yourself in simple, unadorned terms. If you notice that your mind starts racing, with thoughts that are based in the past or the future, or thoughts that are trying very hard to figure out what to do to solve a problem, it’s probably your inner critic wanting to take over.
The Inner Critic
The inner critic is a part of you that continually judges, criticises and orders you around – like Lucifer prodding you with his fork.
If you notice this inner critic, acknowledge that it has worked very hard for you for a very long time, probably without ever receiving acknowledgement for all its efforts.
Your inner critic may be misguided in its efforts, but it is sincerely well intentioned in trying to protect you; so ask:
“How are you going right now?”
Allow your inner critic to tell you about his or her experience. Don’t judge the judging, instead:
Do nothing. Just listen
If you practise this simple mindfulness check-in process throughout your day, day in, day out, you’ll eventually acquire wisdom. You’ll understand yourself better, be more at peace and become more resilient. You’ll phase out your need to feel anxious, insecure or depressed.
This basic mindfulness skill, one of simply observing your experience and developing pure awareness, heals and resolves all issues. The ability to self-reflect in this way gives you greater choice in, and control over your life.
This skill has variously been called “focusing” (by Eugene Gendlin), mindfulness by Buddhists as well as psychologists who have borrowed from Buddhism, or the “observing ego” (by the Gestalt tradition).
There’s a vast body of research that demonstrates the effectiveness of this method in creating successful outcomes in therapy, as well as in life.
Free Mindfulness Guide
If you’re keen to go deeper, a great place to start is to download my free e-book, “The Silence of Mindfulness: A Simple Guide To Inner Peace And Emotional Wellbeing.”
In it, I give you step-by-step instructions on the attitudes you need to develop to grow your personal curiosity. This curiosity will help you release negative emotion faster, more effectively and safely.
You’ll also get access to my email coaching series. It gives you the extra support and resources to help you implement this new learning.